Tara Caetano

 

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You’re a woman first, a mother second.

A strong, intuitive, driven, empathic, multi-dimensional woman with a fierce love for growth, forever raising yourself to new standards because to stand still would be the fiercest betrayal of everything you are.

You’re here for more than motherhood - not because it isn’t enough, but because you’ve done the inner work to know that you’re more than enough, and so that kind of deep knowingness teamed with a special calling on your soul and your relentless, insatiable curiosity for life is exactly why your kids chose you and you’ll be damned if they grow up witnessing that kind of flame go unnoticed.

You’ve decided to grant your own permission slip, and you’ll either succeed or die trying.

You’re a fighter like that.

You always find a way to make shit happen.

Which is why I know deep down, that you don’t actually need me.

But you want me.


“A coach is someone who tells you what you don't want to hear, who has you see what you don't want to see, so you can be who you have always known you could be."

Tom Landry

 

If you’re still reading, then I know you’re one of the three types of people I coach:

  • You’re either already actively pursuing the thing that lights you up outside of motherhood, and yet even though you've made some waves and hit some goals, it’s not quite feeling the way you want it to feel. You’re ready to bring more of yourself to the table, raise your standards on what it can and should feel like, get wildly uncomfortable with possibility, and you’re ready to take up a little more space. Or a lot. You get to call the shots.

  • OR.. You’re smack bang in the messy middle between the woman you were, and the mother you don’t quite feel you’ve become, and you’re drowning in the transition that just feels never-ending. You’re going round in circles and the self-enquiry just isn’t delivering the clarity you’re searching for. You need space and someone to hold the container for your wild rebirth. And that someone is me.

  • OR.. You’ve felt the call to go deeper into your roots, unpack those daughter wounds and make some new declarations about what’s going to be inherited by your little loves, and you’re determined as hell to light up a fire in your life and start creating a new reality as the leader of your family. You know your full potential is going to need your full self in the game, and you’re ready to reveal her in all her glory. What a fucking honour.

Either way, you’re not here to play small, you’re ready to get brutally honest and you’re open to leaving the woman you are behind in favour of the woman your soul is calling you to be.

In her awe-inspiring wholeness, the innocence, the fire, the pain and the power - you’re ready to go deeper so you can aim higher, as a woman and as a mother. Both you and your kids deserve this. You’re in it, to live it.


I AM HERE TO HELP YOU BRING ALL OF YOURSELF TO MOTHERHOOD.

NOT JUST THE PARTS THAT FEEL SAFE ENOUGH TO KEEP YOU RELATABLE, OR THE ONES THAT STROKE YOUR EGO WHO’S ONLY FOCUS IS ON THE EXAMPLE YOU’RE SETTING FOR YOUR KIDS. THIS ISN’T JUST ABOUT YOUR KIDS - IT’S ABOUT YOU.

I AM HERE TO HOLD YOU TO THE VERSION OF YOURSELF YOU CAN SUBTLY FEEL, BUT CAN’T YET DEFINE. HER AND I WORKING TOGETHER ARE THE GLUE THAT’S GOING TO HOLD YOU TOGETHER WHILE YOU BLOW UP EVERYTHING YOU’VE EVER KNOWN ABOUT WOMANHOOD AND MOTHERHOOD AND RAISE THE HUMAN YOU WERE PUT HERE TO BE.


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You’re here for a fucking phenomenal life. Period. To love as deeply as possible, to feel it all, learn it all, let the sun shine through your chest and the earth dance up through your feet as you make every moment count. Hell, that’s one of the reasons you decided to become a mother in the first place, talk about a truly phenomenal experience.


Productivity isn’t about efficiency to you, it’s about purpose. An insatiable need to live and love a FULL life, with loved ones by your side, but a heck of a lot of alone time too. Just because you’re a mother, doesn’t mean any of this changes for you.


You’re the positive one, the one to see the deeper meaning in everything, the interconnectedness of every moment, everything happening for a reason and no experience ever wasted. You’re the growth junkie, the experiencer, the one your peers think of when they need to take their own leap into the unknown. Motherhood itself has been your greatest experiment and growth experience to date and the whole thing still fucking blows your mind. You are a CREATOR; this is just the beginning of what’s possible.



You understand that the people who truly transform and live into their fullest expression of themselves don’t go at it alone, because something that expansive and powerful is far too important to half-ass or leave behind that which you cannot see yourself, and life itself is far too short to spend a lifetime rebounding off your edge due to fear and everything else we as humans love to procrastinate on when it’s time to get our hands dirty. You know you’re worthy of feeling as supported and held as humanly possible whilst you up-level into who your soul needs you to be. No apologies.



You bloody hate being called a super mum or anything ‘super’ for that matter. It drives you nuts. Not only is the whole identity heavily laced with comparison, soaring self-expectations, a facade no-one can ever live up to amidst the isolation it brings on (no-one wants to be friends with a super-mum!), it’s also a glorification of only one side of who you are. Yes, you’re driven and would prefer to focus on your wins than join the club of whinging victim-mums who are busy counting all the hours sleep they didn’t get, but you’ll be damned if you let another woman discount your sensitivity, your pain, your primal screams or fluctuating moods as you cruise through your pre-menstrual phase, as anything but SUPER. You’re wholeness is your superpower, as is your ability to say that out loud. You won’t be shamed any longer for owning (or wanting to own) ALL of who you are.

 

You’re willing to do whatever it takes to feel the way you want to feel. You’re done with what people think about your spontaneous decisions to find a sitter and go sit in silence for 5 days just to tune into the calm of your own heartbeat and deep breaths. Your unapologetic connection to yourself (despite those wavering moments of humanness) is something you’re proud to be present for, and whilst sometimes seen as frivolous or excessive to others in your world; to you, it’s everything. You can’t not live in this way. It’s who you are now.

 

You’ve felt both the highest of highs and lowest of lows when it comes to motherhood and womanhood - and they’ve made you the lighthouse you are. Nothing can ever steal those experiences from you, and you can never go back to who you were pre-children. You can never unmeet this level of strength and resilience you’re so damn proud to have found. You’re a warrior woman and you know you’ll always have whatever it takes.

 

You are ever so aware of this divine responsibility that lays in your hands. A woman, born at this time, to that family, to raise this one, with a heart like yours, a mind in full knowing of what a privilege it is to raise a human of the next generation whilst participating and contributing as a human of the present one... That right there is the shit dreams are made of, and you’re living and breathing it, with one super grateful heart. Your victimhood is no longer welcome at the table. It’s time to lead from the light.

 

You don’t need a hack list of ‘how to make the most of a nap time’ or a guru to tell you the secret to finding more space is cutting down on social media. You are a powerhouse (or want to be) BECAUSE you’re a mother, not because you’ve run away from it. Your potency and focus is now more important than your strategies to ‘beat’ motherhood, because with motherhood came a relentless dedication to simplicity, work that feels on purpose, and a newfound desire to cull everything else that doesn’t feel like a priority. You want an intentional and deeply fulfilling approach to your life that enhances every single part it - more love, presence, more abundance, more freedom. You’re more interested in a sustainable and soul-nurturing version of success than one that you can boast about. Motherhood is and always will be at the core of your life’s work - weaving a warm glow through everything else that you touch.

 

I also know that sometimes you find yourself staying quiet - keeping the lid on your wins because it’s easier to be relatable than feel lonely. Again, you don’t want to be labelled the super mum amongst the only mums you manage to catch up with in person, and isolate yourself completely.

 

Though you do often end up choosing to stay home and declining that catch up because you’ll likely find your own introspection more challenging and exciting than trying to put words to happenings in your life that just don’t land with the people around you. You crave to once again be the dummest person in the room, inspired by your social circle instead of watering something that refuses to grow. Yeah, it can be isolating, but at least most days you enjoy your own company.

 

You’re also a bit of a chameleon by nature, using your empathic and intuitive hits to sometimes blend in with the crowd instead of standing out and being misunderstood. Sometimes you curse your curiosity and unsatisfied hunger, even though the thought of fitting in with the crowd feels all kinds of wrong.

 

You can often find yourself dancing a little too long in your wounds because reflection often feels more comfortable than simply deciding to move past it, even though you know your soul is ready for that next step. Self sabotage is always waiting around the corner.

 

You’re intelligent, you love your independence, and you really really care about people. You feel so much, and love being challenged by new ideas and different ways of thinking, but let’s face it, the monotony of motherhood and the heavy mental load of being the matriarch in the twenty-first century can take a toll and sometimes it feels like the most thrilling conversation you’ve had that day was in your head after reading an Instagram post. This constant balance and trying to make the mundane magical takes up a lot of energy and sometimes Netflix and a packet of corn chips is all you’re able to show up for at 7pm.

 

You value honesty, being radically real and open, your creativity, your relationships and being a good human. You take pride in what you do, and you’re a bit of an all or nothing kinda woman. If you’re going to show up, you’re going to show up. You’re an advocate for what’s really possible, but at the same time you’re still often find yourself drowning in the way things currently are.


Not many mothers have the courage that you do to own their desire for more, to own the NEED to take up more space and make a greater impact beyond the four walls of a home and live a story that is both wholeheartedly yours, but also doesn’t offend who and where you’ve come from.


It’s scary and sometimes it feels like a lot and whilst you know that you can’t be responsible for how others feel, you can’t help but worry that you’ll be deemed ungrateful or selfish. This mama gig ain’t easy. 

And so sometimes you let that inner pull, that soul burn, stay hidden and quiet, whilst you try your hardest to source as much fulfilment as you can from the life that lies in front of you. Until one day it bursts open through tears down your face at the littlest thing, because you just can’t contain your fullness any longer; your brightness, your burning desire for more that must live through you, out of your pores and into the world.  


Your suffering leads to others suffering. And that’s when you know, it’s time to OWN it. It’s time to take this feeling seriously.


 And here’s what I know super well about all of this:

 

OWNING IT AND LIVING IT (WHATEVER ‘IT’ IS FOR YOU) IS ONE OF THE MOST FULFILLING THINGS YOU WILL EVER DO.

MADE EVEN MORE FULFILLING BECAUSE YOU DID IT AS A MOTHER, WITH LITTLE HUMANS WATCHING, LEARNING, ADMIRING FROM THE SIDELINES.

 

And the reason you feel so deeply invested in how others are feeling about your ownership of this part of yourself has actually nothing to do with you as you are now, and everything to do with who you were as a daughter to the very adults you too watched, learned from and admired from the sidelines.

 

Your roots aren’t just your earthly attachments, but they were your leading source of energy through your growth, and they can actually become the stable and secure foundation that you use to reach higher from, a gift and guide if you choose for them to be.


I’m talking about your whole relationship to being a daughter, how this shapes your relationship to being a mother, all of the generational healing that you’re doing - consciously and subconsciously - and how that’s a huge part of that drowning, sinking feeling in your chest some days, and what that means for you as a woman being seen, taking up space and feeling fully expressed as a mother at this time.

It’s deep, powerful and life-changing work that pulls you out of the shadows and nourishes a part of you that maybe has never felt safe enough to be seen or revealed to the world, but that’s why she’s here for you, now, with your wildly obsessive love for stripping back your heart and growing high up towards the sun with your mama bear strength and the deepest knowing you’ve ever had that you’ve always got what it takes.

THIS is why this mission chose you, right now. You were made for this, and the world you’re being asked to create is waiting for you to do just that. The world your children will step into with confidence and an open heart. All because you said yes to letting a coach, a mother, a woman help you go deep into the heart of your greatest calling and slash through the bullshit that is trying to make you believe that because you are a mother you can’t breath life into all that you are.


As your coach, I will show you how motherhood can be your greatest superpower and how to own this part of yourself so powerfully that you have the most profound impact on your children and the world simply by taking up space.

In a way that feels so authentically you, it almost feels too easy.


As your coach, my job is to help bring your focus and awareness back towards who you really are so you can be the woman who lives her own story.

I will help you own your needs and desires in a way that sees you leaning in to every part of yourself unapologetically, reparenting your patterns with full-bodied trust and wholehearted acceptance.

This kind of work is for the daring and disruptive, the women who mean business and are willing to choose the life they live and breathe. If this sounds like the work you were put here to, check out my coaching page and book in a free 30min chat.